Assalamua'laikum wbt & Good Day,
While attending one of my cousin's wedding today despite of heavy migrane and sore throat, it is somehow so true that to have a shariah-compliant wedding is quite a huge challenge. To eliminate things that have been part of traditions since early age is not that easy actually.
That is why when people asking my opinion regarding this topic, I will definitely tell them to look into the family's background prior to judge on anything. Different families will be having different perspectives. Although the groom and bride itself have a strong intend to have a really shariah-compliant wedding, we have to consider the fact that a wedding event is mostly dominated by the parents rather than the couples itself.
|The Wedding Ambiance|
It is not to say that the parents are not having a good foundation of Islam, but as I mentioned in my previous post regarding baby boomers (who definitely have children that are currently in the age that suitable to get married), they are the types who always think about many factors; and one of it is other's perspective and view. It is majority of Gen Ys like us that falls under the category of not to care what people want to say; as long as we didn't do anything harmful be it to ourselves or others.
That is why whenever we are going to any events or party, it is better for us to keep our own perspective to our own rather than quickly speak out our opinion which may hurt the event's organizers. As for myself, as long as you're invited, you just come in the event you've nothing more important than the event itself. It is not to say that other's invitation is not important, but today's lifestyle really need us to prioritize our schedule as we are the only one who are fully responsible to our own life; and it is not an option, it is a must, if you think about it to the deepest point.
Have a nice day :)